“I don’t…” : ‘Bold New World’ My journey from class 12th to a college ( Part 2 )
Ohk, so it turns out I was indeed able to gather sufficient material to write the second post….and well, that is why you’re here reading this! 😛
Now before I go ahead I’d like to pass a small notice that the following text might be slightly against the popular opinion and in some cases you might perhaps find yourself as one of those being subjected to my *cough* anger *cough*. 😛 So umm, apologies beforehand.
So the thing is; as you start your ‘new life’ in college, you’ll realize that there exists an acute dearth of familiar friendly faces you were used to in your school. The “annoying” friends you’d grown so accustomed to are suddenly replaced with annoying [yes…no quotes(” “) 😛 ] ones.
Now I hope not everyone is as unlucky as me, but the grim realization will soon fall upon you that all folks around you (besides you) will almost instantaneously and naturally “fit in” and make a hoard of friends. Just everyone except you will find individuals galore with the same set of interests and hobbies; and will start existing as if they were all just meant to be together here.
Now I don’t have a general solution for all of you ( much like all the other times 😛 ), but I sure will share what worked me.
And it starts with accepting all your “I don’t…”s ! ( Yup, I’m finally getting to the titular thing. 😛 ). So here is my set of all ‘ I don’t ‘s, I have, for all the “merry” people around me.
‘I don’t’ …love everything; I’m not overly excited about something just because you like it. I have my own sets of likes and dislikes that I won’t change just for the trivial benefit of being in your company.
‘I don’t’…know how to fit in. Apologies if it bothers you, but fitting in is NOT one of my stronger suites; ever since…ever….I have only been taught to stand apart, doing things that no one else does and thinking stuff that no one else wonders about.
‘I don’t’….find the compulsive need to party and have fun all the time. I have burdened myself with a strong purpose that need be fulfilled; and to actually see it to the end I have to devote each fraction of my time to it. My purpose is what remains at the top of my priority list and my purpose is what satisfies all my “fun” needs. Unlike the human population, I’m sure my purpose won’t betray me because the only significant factor that can make ‘that’ possible is me myself, and I trust myself that I won’t betray my purpose. It’s my purpose that drives me, motivates me, instills in me to keep working and forces me to keep pushing my limits.
And finally….and the most importantly….. ‘I don’t’….care what you think about my ‘I don’t’ s. My ‘I don’t’ s have kept me happy all this time and I don’t give a ‘Rattus Norgevicus Gluteus Maximus’ about what you say!
Pheww….Man I get quite absurd at times. 😛
Anyways guys, I’m not here to persuade you against making friends. I’m merely trying to get you to understand that it’s OK if you don’t have an amazing group spontaneously. I understand that the modern Hollywood and Bollywood movies have only proved good to heighten your expectations of college and I promise they will eventually be fulfilled. But you have to stay wary not to change your own self just to have that dream social community you’ve always wanted!
As for me, all the while staying true to my principles, I’ve made some extremely amazing friends, people with the same thinking process as mine and almost similar decision making abilities. So on the cost of the initial rough patch I had to witness, I’ve made sure that now at least I have some people I can talk to, be with and work & collaborate with, without any hiccups; which is a great thing. 🙂
I guess I’ll end this two part series here; I wish all the people reading this a very best of luck for the future. “I can’t promise life will be easy, but I promise it’ll be worth it! ” 🙂
PS : ‘Rattus Norgevicus Gluteus Maximus’ is the scientific name for *cough* rat’s ass *cough* 😛
PPS : The following link is a piece of advice my mentor, Tarun Bhalla, gave me when I started college a few weeks back, I believe everyone else should read it too. 🙂